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Overcoming My Own Emotional Blocks

May 10, 2012 By Leave a Comment

I went to an event in Boston last night celebrating the book launch of Dare Dream Do by Whitney Johnson and I cannot wait to read her book!

In conversation with a couple of women I met, blogging and social media came up. Actually one of the women asked if I was on Twitter. “Yes”, I replied, but I had to instantly qualify that response by saying I haven’t quite figured out how to use it. That made me realize that I have the exact same problem with my blog.

I work all day with women business owners helping them identify and work through the emotional blocks that are showing up in their business and here I am staring at this very obvious block without knowing how to attack it! Well that changes today! I made decision last night, I made the choice to address this head on, so here I go.

When I think about writing a post for my blog, Facebook or Twitter I am overwhelmed with the fear of finding something to say that is:

  • Valuable
  • New information
  • Short and sweet (something I ALWAYS struggle with!)

One of the women said she had that struggle too and she suggested I think about what I know and find a way to make it interesting. For some reason that really resonated with me.

So, I’m going to explore this block a bit and see how it fits in with my Energy Centers and what I need to do to eliminate it.

My fear about making sure it’s valuable and new information are probably related to my Solar Plexus Chakra which governs confidence, courage, my perception of myself and the way the world sees me. It’s also about motivation, discipline and will power. It’s known as the Power Center and it’s really like the intuition for the most primal parts of ourselves (gut instincts). For those of us who are control freaks (or control freaks in recovery as like to think of myself) this is where the need for control is born and lives. And I almost forgot it’s where perfectionism is also housed.

The idea of putting myself out there to do something that I’m not completely comfortable with, not totally sure how to do it, is a frightening concept for me. I know it scares the beejesus out of a lot of women, so I’m in really good company! Some beliefs tied to this block are:

  • When I don’t know what I’m doing, I will do it wrong
  • When I don’t know what I’m doing I have no idea how it will turn out
  • If I can’t control how it turns out I can’t do it
  • If I make a mistake people will think I’m not good at what I do
  • If I make a mistake my clients won’t trust me
  • If I can’t do it perfectly I shouldn’t do it
  • If I’m not perfect I won’t be loved

My God, when I look at that list, it’s no wonder I have such a hard time writing posts!

So now that I see what beliefs are tied to this block it brings me back to reality and helps me to really see that although my work is very important and has a dramatic impact on the lives of myself and my clients, that doesn’t trickle down to every single action I take.

The next step is for me to rewrite these beliefs into positive “I” statements that are written in the present tense. This part gets a little tricky because you can’t use any negative words like without, not, no, so you have to get creative and sometimes that means splitting it into two new positive beliefs.

So here are my rewrites:

  • When I don’t know what I’m doing, I will do it wrong – Even when I am unfamiliar with something, I trust in my ability and know the experience will provide a lesson for me.
  • When I don’t know what I’m doing I have no idea how it will turn out – Knowing the outcome is unimportant when taking inspired action.
  • If I make a mistake people will think I’m not good at what I do – Making mistakes is part of the learning process and unrelated to my value as a person and a professional.
  • If I make a mistake my clients won’t trust me – My clients trust me for who I am and how I show up in the world
  • If I can’t do it perfectly I shouldn’t do it – I take inspired action and trust that perfection is unnecessary.
  • If I’m not perfect I won’t be loved – I am loved deeply for who I am.

These may not be perfect, but they feel a lot better than my current beliefs.

So think about something in your business (or your life) that you know you should be doing, but somehow you’re unable to take the necessary action. Spend some quiet time asking yourself what you’re afraid of. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself “why” over and over. Do not be fooled by your ego’s attempt to pacify you with “I don’t have enough time, money, energy”. While those things may be true, THEY ARE NEVER THE ROOT PROBLEM. Come up with a list of some of the beliefs that are keeping you from “just doing it”. Then reword them into a positive belief statement that matches your vision/desire. These become affirmations that you can use to help shift your belief.

I’ll take these and work them into my subconscious – so they match my vision – using Psych-K. It’s much quicker than affirmations and it allows me to balance for more than one belief statement at a time. If you need help shifting your limiting beliefs more quickly, let me know, I’ll be happy to help you!

Big Hugs and a Big ROAR!!!

Casey

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Three Ways to Stop Over-Analyzing and Start Doing

December 19, 2011 By 1 Comment

 

When I revamped my website and had a blog installed on it I promised myself I would actually use it.  So here I sit 6 months later and I am determined to keep my promise!  I have been so hell-bent on writing something valuable and earth shattering that I’ve been completely paralyzed and haven’t written anything at all.  Yet I have plenty of clients and peers who value my input and insight, so what’s my problem?  I’m glad you asked because it might be familiar to you too!

 I suffer from a disorder known as “Impossibly High Expectations Leading to Complete Inaction” Disorder.  The bad news is it’s very common.  The good news is it’s completely treatable.  I’m expecting to make a full recovery and I’d like to help you if you’re suffering from it too. 

How do you recognize this ailment?  You might be afflicted with this disorder if you:

  • Consistently beat yourself up about something you know you “should” be doing
  • Find you regularly procrastinate on a particular activity
  • Wish you could “just do it”
  • Understand the benefit of doing it, but you just can’t bring yourself to execute
  • Feel really relieved and proud of yourself when you actually do it

No matter how much the rational part of me knows that I have to share my information, tips, philosophies, and tools with you, the control freak in me always struggles with letting go of the idea that it has to be perfect before I can put it out there.  This unrealistic expectation has kept me from sharing stories, ideas and solutions and it’s caused me to miss opportunities to:

  • Build relationships with prospects who need my help
  • Appeal to potential referral sources
  • Grow my business and make more money

If you are among the afflicted, then it’s having the same effects on you!

So what can you do to combat this crippling ailment?  As a control freak “in recovery” I can tell you that there are three things you can do right now: 

  • Shift your mindset – Recognize that it’s holding you back in your business (and probably in other areas of your life).  Failing to take action always results in missed opportunities.  Comfort yourself with the knowledge that anything you do is temporary.  It can be changed, improved, tweaked or replaced at any time.  It’s for now, not for-ever and as I’ve learned working with Christian Mickelson (ultra successful business coach), “done is better than perfect”. 
  • Recognize why you’re REALLY procrastinating – I always procrastinate when it comes to writing.  I get paralyzed at the idea of writing articles, stressing over what will be interesting, helpful and supportive of the growth of your business.  I’m a pretty decent writer, so it’s not the activity of writing that’s the problem, it’s knowing what to say.  It’s the same thing with Social Media.  I get paralyzed thinking that I have to come up with the “perfect” thing to say.  I stress over the length and whether it’s juicy, helpful, and valuable enough.  Then frustrated I move on to something else.  Recently it occurred to me that every day I hear from my clients what you’re facing and what you need support with, why not use that?  Light bulb moment!  So I’ve started keeping notes and using them in short bursts (like this one!).  So, ask yourself what you’re  putting off and WHY. 
  • Get some support! Every day, I look at my “to do” list and I realize that some of the things that I am putting off are things that I struggle with (anything technology related) or don’t like.  If you feel like you can’t afford to hire someone to do it for you, then get creative.  Find someone who is looking for extra money and ask them if they’re interested in doing some projects for you.  Barter with someone who knows how to do something you don’t.  I was bartering my coaching services with a friend who does massage and bodywork.  Ask a friend!  I was looking for a title for this article and I emailed it to my friend, she gave me some title suggestions, editing suggestions and she doesn’t know it yet, but I’m going to ask her to post it for me too!    

If you are truly committed to growing your business, serving your clients and sharing your gifts then you will do whatever it takes.  What are you prepared to do? 

I’d love to hear what you’ve been putting off and procrastinating about, so tell me your story!

 

Big Hugs and a Big ROAR!!!

Casey

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Do You Believe You Can Achieve Anything You Set Your Mind To?

September 20, 2011 By Leave a Comment

 

Many of my clients shared some common problems that brought them to me, like struggling to:

  •          Get paying clients
  •          Pay the bills
  •          Stay motivated
  •          Believe they will be successful in this business

 

Does any of that sound familiar? 

 

One of the first and most important steps you can take may surprise you.  It doesn’t involve marketing, social media, Google Ads, search engine optimization or networking (although all of that is important at some point).  The first and most important step you can, and must, take is to develop your Mindset.  

 

What is your Mindset?  It is a collection of your beliefs about yourself, your abilities, opportunities, possibilities, and potential.  It is the perspective through which you view your world. 

 

Setting the stage and creating a mindset that is perfectly aligned with your goals and vision is the most important key in life and business.  Putting effort into that gets you more results than any action without mindset.  If you’re living in, and emoting, fear, anxiety and doubt then your mindset is not aligned and any action you take will produce disappointing results (trust me, I know!). 

 

Your thoughts have a direct impact on your reality.  If you don’t believe me, look around you!  Whatever thoughts you’re giving space and time to will show up in your life.  Your subconscious creates your reality and it is very literal.  It focuses on the subject matter, not the details, so when you spend a lot of energy thinking about what you DON’T WANT you’re basically telling your subconscious that you DO WANT it.  Think of it like a magnet, whatever YOU are focused on, YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS focuses on, and it will attract and magnetize more of that to you.  Think about what you give the most energy to in your thoughts and just take a look at your reality.  See what I mean?

 

What do you want most right now?  Did you picture it?  Now, do you believe you will attain it?  If you answered “no”, you have some real work to do to change your mindset.  If you answered “yes”, but you are still looking for the evidence then you have some work to do too!  The good news is that creating this mindset is simple (note, not easy, but simple). 

 

Over the next few weeks I’m going to be sharing a lot of information with you about how to get control of your mindset, and how to create the business you really want (and deserve!). 

 

Next time I’m going share a technique that has been responsible for some awesome shifts for my clients! 

 

But you don’t have to wait until then!  Click here to set up your own complimentary Energy Diagnostic Info Session learn what’s holding you back from having the business you really want!  I can show you in black, white and color EXACTLY what is holding you back and how we can fix it!  Take me up on my offer!  Sign up for a complimentary Energy Diagnostic Info Session.

If you have any tips of your own to share, please leave a comment on my blog!  I’d love to hear from you!!!

Big Hugs and a Big ROAR!!!

Casey

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Quieting My Monkey Brain

June 1, 2011 By 10 Comments

I was talking with a client this morning about ways to help get her through her next two weeks of activities and stress.  You may be familiar with this problem: you have a list of a million things to do, some that you are dreading, fearful you will let something slip through the cracks.  You think you are keeping it under control by reviewing the list over and over in your head.  Maybe it’s all written down, but that still doesn’t stop you from mentally keeping a tally of what’s on the list, what’s done and what’s left, when you’ll do it, etc.  Each time you cross something off the list you hope for that feeling of relief, but you never quite relax.  Probably because you keep adding to your list!  If you have any control freak tendencies you may also feel compelled to get it all done yourself!

When I review my clients’ Energetic Footprints™ I can always tell who has this tendency because they have an active Third Eye (Energy Center/chakra responsible for intuition, reasoning, intellect, analysis, vision) and an inactive or blocked Root (EC/chakra responsible for stability, security, being in the moment).  Even if you have never seen your Energetic Footprint™, have no idea what a chakra is, you can surely relate to feeling distracted, frazzled, overwhelmed and disconnected at least once in a while.

The biggest problem with Monkey Brain is that it keeps you from manifesting your goals and desires.  As long as you’re living in your head it’s difficult to bring all of your ideas and plans to life.  You get so focused on crossing items off your list that you end up forcing things and making mistakes, bringing about the inevitable melt down.

So, how do you quiet your Monkey Brain?  You Ground Your Energy.  This process takes seconds and can be done anywhere, anytime.  This exercise is used by many energy practitioners.  I have no idea where it originated.

From a standing position (preferably in bare feet), close your eyes, take a deep breath in (through your nose).  As you exhale picture a cord dropping from your tailbone straight down to the center of the earth.  At the center, picture a great big magnet.  That magnet is pulling your cord and holding it tight.  If you’re still not feeling fully connected, imagine your legs as tree trunks with your feet as the roots.  The roots are growing deep under the ground and they are travelling all the way into the center of the earth.  As you continue to inhale and exhale push your breath down your spine and through the cord all the way down.  Gently sway from side to side and feel how steady you are and how deeply connected you are to the earth beneath you.

If you would like support manifesting your goals, and seeing your own Energetic Footprint™ click here to schedule your complimentary Energy Diagnostic Session.

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The Voice In Your Head – Who does she think she is!!

June 1, 2011 By 1 Comment

You know exactly which voice I’m talking about, don’t you?  You’ve heard it, it’s the one that tells you how fat you are, how stupid you are, constantly reminds you what you have screwed up, and what you cannot do, be or have.  You’ve heard that voice your whole life.  She has talked you out of things and talked you into them too.  She makes so much sense sometimes it’s hard not to listen to her!

She’s very practical, extremely outspoken, and tells it like it is.  Or does she?  She was created by your subconscious at the very beginning of YOU.  She filtered information from the people who took care of you – like your parents-which is why she sometimes sounds like them!  Her job was to keep you safe and secure.  She represents the boundaries that were created to keep you out of harm’s way.  When you strayed beyond the safety zone she was there to reign you back in.  She kept you from physical and emotional danger – by replaying your parents warnings against running into traffic, and she recorded the experience you had when you burned yourself touching the hot stove.  She kept track of literally millions of messages, warnings and experiences and played them for you to keep you safe.  She came in very handy when you were four years old!

As you grew older and your world got bigger, she stayed the same.  It became more difficult for her to keep you safe, so her voice got louder and more aggressive, sometimes downright mean.  Nobody told her that your needs changed.  She never got the memo.  So, there she is still trying to keep you living within the boundaries t you needed as a toddler.  She keeps you safe, by keeping your world small.  She is so dedicated to that mission that she will do and say anything (play dirty tricks, replay bad memories and deep fears) to keep you “safe”.

We give so much power to this Voice. We let her make decisions for us, give us advice, dictate how we live!  We let her hold us back from  our own greatness because we believe her.  We may think of her as our Divine or Inner Guidance, but in reality she is a relic of our past.  She is an alarm system we no longer need.

The next time you hear her harsh, critical, attention grabbing, paranoid, cruel voice, dismiss her.  Look at her for what she is.  Talk back to her!  Tell her to beat it!  Feel free to use any kind of language that feels good to you!  If you want to tell her to F**K Off, do it!  Don’t worry about being nice, she never does!  If you’re not that angry, you can simply thank her for her years of service, acknowledge her “point of view” (that’s all it is!).  But don’t give her credit for being your Inner Guidance.  Your True Inner Guidance doesn’t threaten you or manipulate you with fear, she inspires you and help you see your beauty, strength, power and promise.

If you would like support banishing your “Voice” and want to connect with your Inner Guidance and Goddess, click here to schedule your complimentary Energy Diagnostic Session.

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