I went to an event in Boston last night celebrating the book launch of Dare Dream Do by Whitney Johnson and I cannot wait to read her book!
In conversation with a couple of women I met, blogging and social media came up. Actually one of the women asked if I was on Twitter. “Yes”, I replied, but I had to instantly qualify that response by saying I haven’t quite figured out how to use it. That made me realize that I have the exact same problem with my blog.
I work all day with women business owners helping them identify and work through the emotional blocks that are showing up in their business and here I am staring at this very obvious block without knowing how to attack it! Well that changes today! I made decision last night, I made the choice to address this head on, so here I go.
When I think about writing a post for my blog, Facebook or Twitter I am overwhelmed with the fear of finding something to say that is:
- New information
- Short and sweet (something I ALWAYS struggle with!)
One of the women said she had that struggle too and she suggested I think about what I know and find a way to make it interesting. For some reason that really resonated with me.
So, I’m going to explore this block a bit and see how it fits in with my Energy Centers and what I need to do to eliminate it.
My fear about making sure it’s valuable and new information are probably related to my Solar Plexus Chakra which governs confidence, courage, my perception of myself and the way the world sees me. It’s also about motivation, discipline and will power. It’s known as the Power Center and it’s really like the intuition for the most primal parts of ourselves (gut instincts). For those of us who are control freaks (or control freaks in recovery as like to think of myself) this is where the need for control is born and lives. And I almost forgot it’s where perfectionism is also housed.
The idea of putting myself out there to do something that I’m not completely comfortable with, not totally sure how to do it, is a frightening concept for me. I know it scares the beejesus out of a lot of women, so I’m in really good company! Some beliefs tied to this block are:
- When I don’t know what I’m doing, I will do it wrong
- When I don’t know what I’m doing I have no idea how it will turn out
- If I can’t control how it turns out I can’t do it
- If I make a mistake people will think I’m not good at what I do
- If I make a mistake my clients won’t trust me
- If I can’t do it perfectly I shouldn’t do it
- If I’m not perfect I won’t be loved
My God, when I look at that list, it’s no wonder I have such a hard time writing posts!
So now that I see what beliefs are tied to this block it brings me back to reality and helps me to really see that although my work is very important and has a dramatic impact on the lives of myself and my clients, that doesn’t trickle down to every single action I take.
The next step is for me to rewrite these beliefs into positive “I” statements that are written in the present tense. This part gets a little tricky because you can’t use any negative words like without, not, no, so you have to get creative and sometimes that means splitting it into two new positive beliefs.
So here are my rewrites:
- When I don’t know what I’m doing, I will do it wrong – Even when I am unfamiliar with something, I trust in my ability and know the experience will provide a lesson for me.
- When I don’t know what I’m doing I have no idea how it will turn out – Knowing the outcome is unimportant when taking inspired action.
- If I make a mistake people will think I’m not good at what I do – Making mistakes is part of the learning process and unrelated to my value as a person and a professional.
- If I make a mistake my clients won’t trust me – My clients trust me for who I am and how I show up in the world
- If I can’t do it perfectly I shouldn’t do it – I take inspired action and trust that perfection is unnecessary.
- If I’m not perfect I won’t be loved – I am loved deeply for who I am.
These may not be perfect, but they feel a lot better than my current beliefs.
So think about something in your business (or your life) that you know you should be doing, but somehow you’re unable to take the necessary action. Spend some quiet time asking yourself what you’re afraid of. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself “why” over and over. Do not be fooled by your ego’s attempt to pacify you with “I don’t have enough time, money, energy”. While those things may be true, THEY ARE NEVER THE ROOT PROBLEM. Come up with a list of some of the beliefs that are keeping you from “just doing it”. Then reword them into a positive belief statement that matches your vision/desire. These become affirmations that you can use to help shift your belief.
I’ll take these and work them into my subconscious – so they match my vision – using Psych-K. It’s much quicker than affirmations and it allows me to balance for more than one belief statement at a time. If you need help shifting your limiting beliefs more quickly, let me know, I’ll be happy to help you!
Big Hugs and a Big ROAR!!!